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So, you’ve got a goal in mind. You’ve been thinking about it for a while, and now it’s gone from the seed of an idea, to a huge oak tree taking over all your thoughts, its branches weaving into every part of your life. In a word, it’s inescapable. Now you’ve got to this point, it means you’ve got to do something about it. You’ve got to start making it happen.
But a lot of the time, that’s easier said than done. It takes guts, time, help and an awful lot of patience.
Practice makes perfect
If your goal is a big one, think about breaking it down into smaller ones to start. So, say you want to go back to work. That’s a big, life-changing step. But it’s one you can prepare for. You could try volunteering somewhere first. Then you can experience what it’ll be like, and understand what you’ll be good at, and where you might have issues.
They say ‘fake it ‘til you make it’ – and boy is that true. You can see more tips and hints for building your confidence in this series of posts. And for a bit more support, here are some fab ‘fake it ‘til you make it’ strategies.
Come up with Plan B
Sometimes, your first plan just isn’t going to be feasible. Maybe it’s down to money, or maybe you just don’t have the time or support. So, have a backup plan prepared. This means you can still achieve that step – it might just be slightly different to what you imaged it would be. For example, let’s say you want more freedom – you want a car that you can drive. A vehicle adapted to your needs. But if you can’t afford a brand new vehicle, you don’t have to cross this off your list. Just lower your sights, and start looking for a preloved car or van. Bussani used handicap vans are a good place to start, as are other similar secondhand sites.
Wage a war on worrying
You can achieve your goal. You just have to ignore that voice telling you that you can’t. Like we’ve said: fake it ‘til you make it, and have a second plan prepared just in case. But if you’re still struggling, then you’re going to have to get tough. Write down what your biggest worries and concerns are, and start crossing them out one by one.
Once you can see all the obstacles lying between where you are now, and where you want to be, they’re easier to overcome. Think of it like a map. It’d be much harder to cross a forest without knowing where you’re going. But if you know where the fallen trees are, where the large roots lie, and where a river crosses your tracks, you’ll be ready to face them. The same goes for your worries and fears. Put on a different hat, and logically go through each, coming up with two or three things that defy these worries.
If you’re worried about your confidence, write two or three things to boost it: why you’re not worried about it. If you’re worried about going somewhere: write down how you’ll get there, and what you’ll do if you get lost. While you probably have your own coping methods, here’s a great article with tips on how to break a ‘worry cycle’.
Succeeding is all about being prepared. Have a goal and get ready to make those big steps – but approach them in small ways first.